Shred the past and move on: How to get over your ex


Let’s face it; ending a relationship is not easy. Even if you’ve lost interest in your partner, it may still be hard to move on. Whether you were dating for a couple months or a couple years, it’s always hard when it comes time to move on from your ex.  To help you cope with the pain, we’ve come up with some solutions that if you put into place, will make getting over your ex that much easier.  Heck there’s even Hooter’s celebrations now for shredding your ex! Here are a few tips to get over your ex;

Don’t try to be their friend

When you break up with your ex, you may still be tempted to make them your friend. This happens because you cannot imagine not having them in your life. This kind of situation not only hurts, but leaves you unable to move on to another relationship. Other than that, it could be a sign that you are still hoping you’ll get back to them. As tempting as it may look, you need to make a clean break. Most importantly, you should try to resist any urge to ask personal questions. The truth of the matter is; your ex will never be your friend.

Get rid of old pictures

This is where the rubber meets the road. Don’t waste your time, just take down those pictures or find the best paper shredder and shred them to pieces. For a little added bonus, go ahead and burn them too! If you had taken some of those relationship selfies and made them your Facebook or Instagram profile, you may want to delete them. Alternatively, you can update your current profile with new pictures. Before you know it, your ex photos will be a thing of the past. However, if that person was not a negative force in your life, you should keep those pictures away in a safe place.

Spoil yourself a little

Get out with your friends and do whatever makes you happy. You can go for simple things like a massage, manicure or facial. If you are an outdoor enthusiast, you can go for ice-skating or hiking to get rid of those memories. Just treat yourself the way you’d like someone special to treat you. When you are able to maintain your social network after a breakup, you’ll heal more quickly. Try not to engage in any kind of romance, it will only make you feel worse.

Give yourself enough time to grief

When a relationship ends, it can leave a big hole in the heart. Make sure you take your time to get rid of all those negative emotions. Otherwise, it may be quite hard for you to move on. If you ignore that anger or resentment in your body, it will only come back much stronger and louder.

Keep yourself busy

Taking a few days from work can have a positive effect on you. This may sound a little cliché, but it’s necessary. With that in mind, you should take out your calendar and start filling it up. It’s a great opportunity to do what you’ve always wanted.

When you follow the above tips, you will no longer harbor the desires and feelings of getting back to your ex.